I know you feel happy, excited and sweet when you enter a r/p…
I know you think FINALLY you have found “the one” and you will forever be loved and accepted by this woman…
But do you know even if you both fucked each other well, the more expectations you bring into a r/p the more you two will fuck up the r/p?
Here are a few common expectations that you bring into a r/p that slowly KILL a r/p:
#1 “I expect you to love me in a way I want without me saying it.”
Wake the fuck up bro. If you don’t express your desires & secret wishes to her, she won’t be able to mindread you, fulfill your needs, or suck your dick.
STOP withholding your needs and learn to communicate honestly what you want in the r/p. If you feel scared, learn to be vulnerable and say “Hey, I want to ask you sth but I feel scared coz I worry what you think about me. Can you be open-minded and don’t judge me if I share my thoughts with you?”
#2 “I expect she loves me unconditionally coz I love her unconditionally”
It is very romantic to have such thought and I am not arguing that it can’t be possible. Yet, in almost all cases, healthy intimate r/ps start from conditional love. You just can’t expect unconditional love like your parents might have given you in the past.
So stop treating women like queen, stop letting her abusing you emotionally/ physically/ financially…and then back-rationalize that “you really love her”.
Because the truth is your self-esteem is so low that you NEED a psychologically fucked up woman to give you tiny pathetic attention to validate your worth as a man.
Does this hurt? Yes, because that’s the truth that cracks your naive fantasy.
#3 “I expect “true love” requires zero hard work and we’ll just live happily ever after.”
Can you see how fucked up your mind is by Disney/Hollywood romantic movies? I don’t blame you… coz most of us are force-fed with these lies.
The truth is no matter how compatible/loving you two are, relationships require a fuck ton of work and effort! You change, she changes, the relationship changes. Stop falling into the masculine trap thinking “one day everything will be over and I can finally relax.”
No, you can NEVER relax because if you 順其自然, your relationship is going to fall apart because life is either growth or death.
So just like everything else, you have to be conscious, put in the work required in a relationship in order to enjoy the fruits of it.
If you aren’t ready, that’s totally okay and you should pursue other things in life first.